Q: My husband and I recently had a threesome with a pretty lady. She is an experience swinger. She is a caring and very nice person. It was our first threesome, so we thought that it would be better if she just watched us for a little bit before we invited her to join us. She happily agreed and didn't cause any trouble. She just lied there and watch us while pleasing herself. Soon, we invited her in. She really knew how to make us happy. There was not a moment when she made us uncomfortable. We both like her very much. After she left, my husband and I talked about it and agreed that we were going to make her our regular threesome partner. But after I thought about it alone in my mind, I became a little concerned. If we are going to meet occasionally, I am afraid that there might be potential danger, emotional danger more specific. I am concerned that she and my husband, they might fall in love with each other and cheat on me. There is definitely possibility for it to happen. What should I do? Is it wrong for couples to find regular threesome partner?
A: I am glad that you already passed the first stage for swinger couples. This is your second stage and the most difficult and dangerous stage. Many swinger couples have wondered about this issue. Should they find a regular threesome partner? The answer is yes and no. It depends.
Threesomes is always a challenge for couples. It will never be less with time goes by. Even if you are both very experienced swingers, threesome and swinger lifestyle are still hard to master. Having a regular threesome partner just makes it even harder. You need to understand that threesome is purely for sexual experiences. No emotions should be attached to it, while as you know, emotion can grow with time passing by. Two people spending some quality time together regularly, what is going to happen? Relationship or friendship? Especially when there is sexually behavior included. It is hard to say, but the answer is pretty obvious. If you are a bisexual, it might be fairer. You and your husband might grow feelings for the third in the same degree. In that way, you can be in a triangle relationship. It might work. However, I think you are not a bisexual and there is little chance that you could turn into one. Therefore, I will suggest you to think twice about the whole regular threesome partner idea, because frankly speaking, there will be potential danger. According to Murphy's law, something bad might happen is going to happen. Do not bear any fluke mind.